The first rule of leadership: a real man does not talk **** about anyone or anything on his team in public. Behind closed doors you can man-up and say things straight in a face-to-face. To do otherwise will make your teammates lose respect for you. Ben is currently suffering from this loss.
A true leader can say it face to face and still throw out constructive criticism on a radio show. Players that can't handle it are suffering from pussification and are walking around with built in female shoulder pads. Yes they should turn in their man cards because they are soft as ****.